One:

I knew I was a lesbian when I was about five years old and fantasized about my Sunday School teacher. (ha) From there my sexual orientation developed basically into lesbian although I did date boys occasionally to keep people in my very conservative church from talking about me. I shared some of my feelings with girlfriends, who in some cases became my lovers.

However, when I was 20, I knew I had to make a decision in my life and I made a CONSCIOUS choice to pursue heterosexuality, for the simple fact that I wanted a family that conformed to societal mores. I can't tell you how difficult this choice was, to turn my back against who I was at the very core of being. I married a man who has been very understanding of my psyche and I have achieved 20 years of marriage with four children.

It's been hard....it is not an easy choice but it IS a choice. And I can't say that I haven't occasionally fallen by the wayside. It is still very difficult for me and probably always will be.

But worth it? Yes, when I see my four healthy normal kids who have both a mom and a dad; when my husband takes me in his arms; when I search my heart and find nothing but peace.

My point, though, is that in today's culture gays are depicted as having no control over their actions and as a lesbian, I know this to be untrue.

Two:

Speaking personally, when I first felt my need for a Savior, I felt it because of my pride, because of my greed, because of my hatred, because of my lack of self-control, because of my selfishness, because of my unrighteous anger, because of my impatience, because of how I had hardened my heart against the Lord of the Universe and blasphemed His name. These things condemned me. I did not yet see the sinfulness of homosexuality, or any [consensual] sexual sin for that matter. It was not until after I became a Christian by God's grace that my eyes were more fully opened and I could see the truth in the Scriptures and in the witness of the Holy Spirit within my heart.

The response from another, in a similar situation:

What I am saying is that I needed a complete change of my old nature (whether you see the problem as "original sin" or "the absolute depravity of man") before I ever had the desire or the power to forsake homosexual behavior to begin with...

This is really the point of Romans 1:21-32. It's not just that homosexual acts are sinful (though they are), but they are the result, even the sign, that a culture has already become depraved through idolatry and every sort of ungodliness. The presence of homosexual identity in a culture is the fruit, not the root, of the problem. And until we get to the root of the problem in individual lives, we will never see healing for the individual or the culture.